(Subtitle: you can blame the Abstract Impressionists for your troubles)
There is no doubt that small, nursery-aged children take up a considerable amount of time and energy. Seasoned parents will quickly share, however, that it goes incredibly fast, despite what it feels like in the moment. They reminisce: babyhood was over in the blink of an eye. During the 4 (or so) years it takes for a little person to become less dependent, for most artists, studio practice will look different. In the grand scheme of a human life, however, you get that time back very quickly, because children grow very quickly. You gain a period of intense life experience and emotion to draw from. This is not wasted time, rather, it is a period of accumulation, and you still get to keep your most priceless investment- your children.
Where does the idea originate, that an artist’s life is incompatible with parenting? Sharon L. Butler explores some alternatives in the Brooklyn Rail, 2008.